Great post. Once I abandoned the idea of being "good" I felt a lot of freedom. I also acknowledged that it is not possible to be excelling in all facets of life and I stopped beating myself up about it. You know what, I dislike cooking, am bad at it and frankly, not even interested in having a big meal at the end of the day. Our culture frowns upon that attitude. But what I found even when I didn't have little kids to care for our a job that demanded my full attention in the late afternoon, I STILL didn't prioritize meal planning, prep, cooking and eating. And that's OK. If having a career, fun with my husband, going for bike rides and caring more about spending an hour after work with my garden than in the kitchen, so what? I feel like I am that rare woman who is well. Who is not shredding up inside any longer with guilt and self-sabotage. I wish that for everyone.
Wow! Well said sister! This resonates soooo much! Thank you, as always, for your bravery and honesty and for saying the “hard things” that I know I want to say more of (and I’m guessing other women do too). Much love to you Katy!
Incredible post, and really hits the mark. So many women, myself included, have tried to make it all work in systems that don't support women. I found that while you can "do it all" so to speak, why would you want to? Just to fit into someone else's definition of success? The expectation for women to have these fantastic careers all the while raising kids at home and being involved for the big and small events is just not realistic to being a sane, happy mother. Society needs to stop saying that if you just try hard enough, and focus hard enough, you can strike a perfect balance. Wrong, this type of situation gives you no breathing room, and you need breathing room to be a happy/well adjusted person, you just do.
Great post. Once I abandoned the idea of being "good" I felt a lot of freedom. I also acknowledged that it is not possible to be excelling in all facets of life and I stopped beating myself up about it. You know what, I dislike cooking, am bad at it and frankly, not even interested in having a big meal at the end of the day. Our culture frowns upon that attitude. But what I found even when I didn't have little kids to care for our a job that demanded my full attention in the late afternoon, I STILL didn't prioritize meal planning, prep, cooking and eating. And that's OK. If having a career, fun with my husband, going for bike rides and caring more about spending an hour after work with my garden than in the kitchen, so what? I feel like I am that rare woman who is well. Who is not shredding up inside any longer with guilt and self-sabotage. I wish that for everyone.
Wow! Well said sister! This resonates soooo much! Thank you, as always, for your bravery and honesty and for saying the “hard things” that I know I want to say more of (and I’m guessing other women do too). Much love to you Katy!
Incredible post, and really hits the mark. So many women, myself included, have tried to make it all work in systems that don't support women. I found that while you can "do it all" so to speak, why would you want to? Just to fit into someone else's definition of success? The expectation for women to have these fantastic careers all the while raising kids at home and being involved for the big and small events is just not realistic to being a sane, happy mother. Society needs to stop saying that if you just try hard enough, and focus hard enough, you can strike a perfect balance. Wrong, this type of situation gives you no breathing room, and you need breathing room to be a happy/well adjusted person, you just do.